When Alex guest posted over on Kristie Was Here, she wrote her younger self a letter, and I loved the idea. When I look back on my past, there are so many things that I wish I had known then. And since I already really love letter writing (really, I do!), I thought I'd give it a go myself. So please pardon my lack of idea originality, but without further ado...
Dear Little Lacey,
First and foremost, the most important thing you're going to figure out in this life is that your Mom, Dad, and sisters will be there for you through everything, always, without fail. So be good to them.
Don't tell Big Sister you hate her (a- because you know you don't, and b- because that makes her cry). Don't hit Little Sister too much, because by the time you reach high school, she will be stronger than you. And she'll be more popular than you, so you'll kind of want her on your team. Not to mention both of these girls will be more best friends than sisters once you're older, and you won't know what you'd do without them.
Trust Mom. Even though she may sometimes seem like she's unorthodox (she is), she wants only the coolest of things for you in this lifetime.
And make sure you never let Dad leave the house without an extra hug. That goes for the girls and Mom too, but definitely make sure to get as many of the Dad-hugs in as you can, early-on.
You're going to move a lot in your life. You may hate this as a kid, but trust me, once you're an adult, you will realize how valuable the lessons you learned in transitioning from one place to another will be. Because of this, you will know how to make friends anywhere you go.
Middle school will suck. The boys will all be shorter than you. The girls will be absolutely cruel, and you will show the ugliest side of yourself to them in return. Don't worry though: you will grow up, you will mature, and you will take the lessons from this time in life and funnel them into an effort as an adult to always be kind.
Dad will die, and your heart will break. You will remain strong in front of your family, but you'll spend an hour in the car everyday for the following six months crying out your pain. There is no shame in that. You'll think the hurt will never lessen, and that your heart will never be happy again, but it will. Time will renew your faith in the world, and by the ripe old age of 18, you will have a fresh perspective on what life is really about.
You'll learn that most guys are douchebags. Even the ones that don't immediately seem to be, have douchebag potential. You'll learn how to activate your douchebag radar soon enough. That's all I'll say on that one.
You will leave LA twice, you will return to LA twice - all in the name of working your ass off. And you'll learn more than you would have imagined you'd learn by the age of 25. The most important of which being that friends and family are what make life worthwhile. For you, it won't matter if you're in the coolest city in the world, in a super fantastic job - if your Mom and sisters and best friends are all 3,000 miles away, you'll realize it's all not worth that much.
Lastly, don't forget to be grateful. Being grateful makes you want to give back to others, and it keeps you aware of how amazingly lucky you are in this life. Being grateful will keep a smile on your face, and if I'm correct, people in your future will come to know you for always having that smile on your face. Hence why this is key.
All my love,